PENGARUH DUKUNGAN MANTAN SUAMI, STRATEGI KOPING, DAN RELASI ORANG TUA-ANAK TERHADAP KEBAHAGIAAN KELUARGA TUNGGAL

Yasmin Azizah; Herien Puspitawati; Tin Herawati

doi:10.24156/jikk.2022.15.2.127

Yasmin Azizah IPB University
Herien Puspitawati IPB University
Tin Herawati IPB University

DOI: https://doi.org/10.24156/jikk.2022.15.2.127

Abstract

Percerain mendatangkan berbagai perubahan yang berdampak pada kebahagiaan keluarga. Demi menciptakan kebahagiaan yang dapat membuat keluarga memiliki gambaran positif mengenai hidupnya, dibutuhkan dukungan, kemampuan mengatasi stres, serta kemampuan orang tua dan anak dalam menjalani relasi yang baik. Tujuan penelitian ini adalah untuk menganalisis pengaruh karakteristik keluarga, karakteristik mantan suami, dukungan mantan suami, strategi koping, dan relasi orang tua-anak terhadap kebahagiaan keluarga tunggal. Penelitian ini menggunakan desain cross-sectional study. Pengambilan contoh dilakukan menggunakan non probability sampling dengan teknik voluntary sampling. Penelitian dilakukan kepada keluarga tunggal yang mengalami cerai hidup, mantan suami masih hidup, dan memiliki anak yang bertempat tinggal di Indonesia. Contoh dalam penelitian ini berjumlah 100 keluarga. Hasil penelitian menunjukkan pendapatan ibu berpengaruh negatif signifikan terhadap strategi koping, dukungan mantan suami berpengaruh positif signifikan terhadap relasi orang tua-anak, serta pendapatan ibu dan strategi koping berpengaruh positif signifikan terhadap kebahagiaan keluarga. Keluarga tunggal dapat bangkit dari krisis akibat perceraian dengan meningkatkan usaha untuk menambah pendapatan, dan menjaga komunikasi positif dengan mantan suami terkait dengan kerja sama dalam merawat anak. Mantan suami juga diharapkan untuk dapat meningkatkan kasih sayang serta tanggung jawabnya walaupun anak tinggal bersama ibunya.

Author Biographies

Yasmin Azizah, IPB University

Department of Family and Consumer Sciences, Faculty of Human Ecology, Accreditation A

Herien Puspitawati, IPB University

Department of Family and Consumer Sciences, Faculty of Human Ecology, Accreditation A

Tin Herawati, IPB University

Department of Family and Consumer Sciences, Faculty of Human Ecology, Accreditation A

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